I apologize for how incoherent my rant probably is. Fostering this deaf puppy is seriously cutting into my sleep time. Not completely awake.
Bit of a cop out argument though, Joe. As it's a generalization in the first place, arguing that the fault of opinion is due to choice of perspective is just as relative. It's pretty much just stating that the opinion is a generalization if you think about it. If what you're constantly exposed to is smut and you form the opinion that it all must be smut, it may be unfairly grouping things together, but the initial opinion that made you jump there is still valid. Just as there are great movies and books, yet the most popular of those aren't always the highest quality (lookin' at you Twilight and Titanic). Which encourages the medium to become saturated with blah blah blah, shake that tree.
While obviously you should share with friends and the like when you've found quality, ignoring crap doesn't help anyone except the people who make money off crap. Critics are an important part of the ecosystem, a part of quality control. If you publish something, you're accountable for its flaws (critics are as well), you're not let off the hook for writing poor characters and using bad plot devices just because you're not personally misogynistic. It's out there in the public now, you don't have to be a fan to read it and you can't know that you aren't a fan until you've suffered (or enjoyed) it.
As for what women want, sheldon, I dunno. Not really what I focus on. Also, can't really give a general answer in any case because not everyone wants the same thing, so it could very well be all of those things. None of them are really bad things to want anyway; if another demographic is being catered to and getting all of the attention, feeling ignored is a pretty natural result. In story makin though, gender is generally just a factor for how something is poorly executed. The issue seems to be that people focus too much on making female characters rather than making characters. Race and gender aren't the sum of a character after all, which the newest work-around seems to be using preexisting characters and changing sex or gender. Which is (technically a step in the right frame of mind) lazy but making new things isn't really what the big'uns like to do. Loses the bias edge where it would have to be judged on its own merits without any clouding nostalgia and fans already familiar with the lore. Why create when you can reboot?
Point is, ignoring something you don't like isn't necessarily the best approach. It's a social issue, not a bully. If the people who don't like it have no voice, all that's left is ego-feeding sending the message to the creator "This is okay and what people want to see, and they will pay for more of it." Other point is simply to give encouragement where it's due. Recognize the difference between characters mistreating each other and an author mistreating their characters... or something.
No one probably argued that criticism is unnecessary and pointing out that negative feedback can easily be constructive likely isn't something everyone here doesn't already know, but whatever. Also, it took me a few minutes to figure out that "gnovel" wasn't a typo. Made me chuckle.
99 Problems and a Cat
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